The rules of wedding etiquette are ever changing, especially nowadays. With the increase in social media and the overall digital presence, it has become more difficult for engaged couples to know how to navigate the rules. Here’s our two cents on the appropriate wedding etiquette in the digital age.
It’s the best day of your life - you’re engaged! Understandably, you probably want to shout it from the rooftops. However, refrain from immediately changing your Facebook status and posting to Instagram. This is a special moment in your life and you should share it with your close loved ones and friends before sending it out to the masses. We suggest calling your parents and best friends so they don’t hear about it from someone else first.
Time To Celebrate
Celebrating your engagement can be as formal or informal as you want. The old rule of thumb when it came to engagement party invitations was to send out a traditional invitation in the mail. However, with the increase in e-vites and Facebook invitations the norm has slightly changed. If you’re having a casual, backyard engagement party a paper invitation might not be necessary (although still a nice touch!). A beautifully printed invitation is more appropriate if you’re having a more formal engagement party.
Save the Dates
Save the Dates are always special for guests to receive because it let’s them know you want them to be a part of your special day. Sending a physical Save the Date, rather than an email, is preferable because it gives your guests something to hold onto and serves as a reminder of your wedding day. Picture it on your fridge or bulletin board! We also recommend that you include your wedding website, and maybe even your wedding hashtag, on your Save the Date.
Wedding Website & #Hashtag
Creating a wedding website is a fun and easy, especially with all the free website platforms out there. You can customize your website to have a personal URL, pictures, and theme to suite you and your fiance. It’s also a convenient way to organize all your wedding day details and give your guests easy access to any information they may need. You can include your registry, wedding venue info/directions, wedding hashtag, and link your social media accounts so everything is in one place!
When choosing your wedding hashtag, make sure it’s one that stands out! It’s common for couples to mashup their names or do a play on words that includes their names. For example, #HappilyEverAdams is more original and unique than #WeddingDay. You want your wedding hashtag to be your own and reflect you and your fiance.
There are no ifs, ands or buts about it; sending a traditional wedding invitation in the mail will never go out of style. Sending a wedding invitation via email seems impersonal. Plus, planning your wedding is fun. Enjoy the process and work with a stationer to choose a wedding invitation suite that reflects your wedding style. A nice option to combine both worlds is to allow guests to RSVP by email or on your wedding website rather than RSVPing through the mail.
The big day is over and you’re finally married! It is extremely important to thank all of your guests for their gifts and for attending the wedding. Do not send out a mass email thanking everyone. Thank you’s should be handwritten with a thoughtful message on beautiful stationery. If you are changing your surname, this is the perfect opportunity to let everyone know!
At Fine Lines, we will guide you through the wedding process step by step until you have the perfect invitation for your big day. To accompany your wedding invitation, we provide calligraphy, addressing and mailing services. We also offer custom invitation ensemble items including: save the date cards, menu cards, direction cards, specialty envelopes, and more. Contact us for more information, (914) 232-4856.